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True Female Empowerment

16 May

Angelina Jolie

 

Tuesday, I woke up at 6am to my alarm and my husband asking me if I read Angelina Jolie’s Op Ed in the NYTimes. Obviously, I hadn’t because I was sleeping. By now everyone knows what the actress very honestly explained in detail she had undergone.

To have a double mastectomy is an extremely brave thing to do and in a case like Ms. Jolie’s completely necessary. She has children that she must be a healthy mother for. Even if she didn’t have kids, she is a woman who has a long life ahead of her thanks to this procedure. I, for one, wouldn’t think twice about the decision to remove my breasts and have reconstructive surgery and don’t know many who would debate the options very long. How lucky we are to live in this modern world where that is a very viable choice?

While there is much to think about when it comes to genetic testing, which is now a part of the national dialogue thanks to this Op Ed, another side of the story is, as women, our emotional attachment to our breasts. Our breasts are something that make us who we are… no seriously. Big or small, they are, for many of my friends, something that does define part of who we are as women.

My breasts were the first visible sign that I had stepped into womanhood as well as a big (no pun intended) indicator that I was  pregnant. My boobs are the reason I can’t wear some clothes and can fill out others well. The “ladies” are not only what make me feel incredibly sexy but also what sustained my child for 6 plus months.  I would give them a twitter account if anyone really cared to hear what they were thinking (but it would probably be a little dirty!).

So, while it is a no brainer choice to have them removed in the case of life or death, it should also be acknowledged that our breasts are a very personal asset.

 

Mom of the Day: The Original

9 May

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The Original is, of course, my gorgeous mom, Mary Anne the First. Probably, substantively the coolest lady I know she is the driving force behind 5 people that have now multiplied to 12 grandchildren. To see her with her name sake, is to see true love at work.  Mere is a get on the ground and play, make dinner and a mini mess, read great books, talk in gibberish kind of grandmother.

As a mom, she is quiet and truly ladylike (she never heard the F word until I was in HS) but completely connected one on one with her adult children. When a little lost or confused, it’s Mary Anne that makes sense of it all. I love that while she chose one path, she has never believed that it is the path for anyone else. Her daughters have been encouraged to follow our dreams into the great unknown: taking a career leap at 40, starting a company from the ground up, growing a family, moving back to Pittsburgh. She is present and not just cheerleading but giving some serious “real talk”.

So, thanks Mere for being pretty awesome.  You are a rock. And I hope I am as solid a mom to M and whoever comes next.

Mom of the Day: Easy Does It

6 May

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Laura is one of those moms that I secretly envy and outwardly adore. Gorgeous in that way that women like Elle Macpherson or Heidi Klum are, she is stunning early in the AM grabbing coffee without a stitch of make-up.  But once you get to know her you realize quickly that this is a girl who would do just about anything for anyone she meets. She is as beautiful inside as she is on the outside.

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But as a mom, now here is where Laura is beyond the norm and what I really adore. She is almost a blast from the past. 100% dedicated and in love with her adorable daughter, Laura is a mom that is taking it all in stride. She doesn’t seem to over complicate her kid’s development but is completely in step with it. I love that she is not defined by her successful career that is now on hiatus nor by the fact that she is a super mom.  She is a woman that anyone can see is truly loving this time in her family’s life and living in the moment (which I’m not sure I for one am that great about). Now that’s a pretty, awesome Mommy!

Mollie: What’s the most surprising thing you’ve learned about yourself since becoming a mom?

Laura: I have more patience than I thought.  Admittedly, not as much as I need some days, but definitely more than I had pre-motherhood!  I am having so much fun with Kate in this stage, I love how she is starting to talk and even her fierce independent streak.  I just want to enjoy every second.

M: What’s your favorite thing to do with Kate?

L: I love to take her outside and let her run around the playground.  I like encouraging physical activity and I love listening to her laugh and squeal as I chase her around.  Bonus if she gets tired enough to go to sleep without any protests!

M: If you could gift yourself a Mother’s Day present, what would it be?

L: Spa Day 

Mom of the Day: A Beautiful Life

3 May

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Creative, fun, engaged, connected… these are words that I think most moms aspire to when raising their families.  As our kids grow from infancy to toddler to grader and beyond, it is a beautiful life full of love that I know we all want to create.

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The moment I walked into Christina’s house, it was clear that this was place where her 5 blondies are encouraged to be who they are grounded with a solid foundation of love. As the 4th child of 5 , it really was like glimpsing into my own childhood for a moment… a home that is clearly kid first but definitely ruled by one extraordinary woman.

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Beyond being a mom of this fabulous brood, Christina is also an artist and fledging entrepreneur herself. While I don’t know her terribly well, it is clear that as her kids are heading into the independent years of high school and college, Christina is also finding her own next chapter which, from this vantage point, is extremely exciting to watch! Shooting C and her family was an absolute joy as she was by no means a passive participant but creative, fun, engaged, and connected.

 DSC_4521We did a little Q and A with Christina and her answers, honestly, made me tear up a bit. As a rookie mom, I appreciated her advice and hope you feel the same! 

Mollie: What is your favorite Mother’s Day memory?
 
Christina: I was surprised a number of years ago when our children, at the time were ages 7 and younger, teamed-up and made breakfast for me. They brought it up to me and the seven of us shared it together in bed – giggling and scrapping for pillow space.
 
M: What is the most challenging aspect of being the mom of 5?
 
C: Wishing I could give their amazing souls more undivided attention. (Keeping track of their school/sport schedule, laundry, driving and filling-out camp forms is a huge pain, tho)
 
M: How is living in a household with 3 teenage girls? Does your style mix with theirs? Are you worried about your shoe collection? (I would put a lock on my closet if I were you!)
 
C: Olivia, Faith and Eliza have a great sense of humor – we laugh all of the time.  They also have 3 very different personalities, so it keeps me on my toes and makes life more interesting.  They also have different styles: preppy-chic, bo-ho-yo-what’s-on-the-floor and sporty-spicey, but NONE of us have the same shoe size.  Huge bummer.  When we walk into a shoe store, let’s just say its dangerous.  ”Umm, we need 4 pairs of the Frye boot in 4 different sizes…”
 
M: Do you have any advice (you are kind of a warrior I think!) for new moms out there?? 
 
C: If possible: Live close to their school, close to your gym and close to your friends (I learned that the hard way, it more important than a bigger house or yard)
You don’t have to go to every birthday party they are invited to. Don’t try to be Super Mom.  They really want you to listen well and laugh with them…
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Mom of the Day: Style & Grace — with an Edge

1 May

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A little over a year ago, I was minding my own business when a friend email introduced me to a woman who was moving to Pittsburgh, my neighborhood in fact, and had a baby just around the same age as M. Of course, I emailed the friend of the friend to welcome her to the ‘Burgh and asked her to grab coffee. When we did get that coffee, I was pretty much dumbstruck by how lucky I was that this girl had landed in my midst… or maybe I was in her midst!!

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 Ramsey is that type of girl who walks into a room and owns it. She’s the type of friend that will take your lemons and make lemonade – probably spiked with a little something that you weren’t expecting but definitely needed.

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As a mom, Rams truly shines. She loves with her whole heart, which is completely visible once you meet her awesome kids. Having babies 13 months apart is definitely not for the faint of heart, but if there was ever a girl who could do it with grace and honesty, Ramsey is the one! I love that kids are always welcome to play, eat, and be merry in her beyond beautiful (kid friendly) home, but that Squawk Box or Jim Cramer is probably blaring in the background… a reminder of her pre-babies career in finance. Ramsey is a girl that lives life to the fullest with style and grace.

Mollie: You have great style. How would you describe your personal style?

Ramsey: Easy, Functional,  sometimes Chic

M: Always chic! Has your style changed since the babies?

R: Totally!

M: What’s the best advice your mom has given you on motherhood?

R: Don’t be surprised if you don’t feel like yourself until 5 years after your last child! 

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Mamacita!

30 Apr

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Being a mom is certainly not the path of least resistance. It’s an incredibly challenging and, if done properly, supremely rewarding job. But it is no joke hard. Maybe it’s not that cool to be so open, but no one really tells you how tough it is, day in and day out.

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What a strange phenomenon. All at once the best job in the world and the world’s most exhausting.  I love that this little person thinks it’s entirely appropriate to find me only to wipe her hummus covered hands on the back of my leggings. I love when she appears out of her room dressed like the superstar she is. I love that Tom says he now lives with two Mollies. I love that she isn’t totally like me and gets super shy in new situations, only to want to be in the center of whatever is going on within 10 minutes. I love that she now says those most amazing words, “I LOVE YOU!”

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It’s an awesome ride and I am pretty lucky to be called MOMMIE – even when it is the only word coming out of the backseat incessantly for 10 minutes.

byL really is a celebration of women and a huge part of who we are is our kids. We recently shot 3 real moms who exemplify that awesome spirit that makes women into moms. These women are all in different life places, but each have a lot to give and get as mothers and women. Over the next few days, you’ll get to meet them and glance into their fun, crazy, beautiful worlds.

Happy Mother’s Day!!

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#MYbyL Sweeps!! Win a $500 Shopping Spree

30 Apr

We LOVE a contest! And a contest where you can win $500 to update your Mommy Wardrobe?? Even better!! To celebrate our favorite ladies, we’ve created a sweeps. Twit Pic or Instagram a pic of you “Mommying” with #MYbyL and you’re entered! We will choose the winner on May 7th!! Have fun!! XOXOImage

Gwynnie Gives Good…

29 Apr

Okay, I am not afraid to admit it but I LOVE GWYNETH PALTROW! I kind of get why she’s a polarizing figure  but I like the glamorous glimpse into her life she offers on GOOP.  I mean, it may be ridiculous that she has a wood burning oven in her backyard specifically for pizza making, but I mean, I would kind of dig that amenity if I could afford it. At least she’s the one making the pizza?!

Seriously, GP is one of those girls who does get better looking as she gets older and tells it like it is (even if her reality is a little different from the rest of ours!). I love that People Magazine named her the World’s Most Beautiful Woman and it annoys me that women are hating on her (Sharon Osbourne) because, honestly, men don’t hate on the likes of Channing Tatum when named “Sexiest”.

Whatever your POV on Mrs. Martin, I did take a moment to read her interview this weekend (I know, what an extensive reading list I have) and my favorite thing in it was the advice she gave on having more children, which was actually attributed to her friends mom.

Don’t do your planning around the pain in the ass of infancy, because it’s so finite. Plan it around  how many people you want at Thanksgiving.

I just loved this and found it personally powerful as I am in the midst of figuring out our own family path. Simply said, it’s a beautiful way to imagine your future family….

byL Seeks SWF for Mother’s Day!!

25 Apr

I have to be honest, the ‘burgh — where a Steelers Jersey is considered highly appropriate attire for work – isn’t always the most fashion-forward city in the Western Hemisphere. But, there are a solid number of girls (and guys) who really do love fashion and have incredible style and live in the City of Champions!

One such stylish lady is Terra McBride of the world famous blog Stylish White Female. With followers around the world, Terra is showing us all how glam a girl (and mom) can be day in and out. I really adore Terra’s style but also her awesome wit and real world wisdom. Like so many of us out there, she’s a mom who does it all (career, blog, friends, husband) while still being completely true to herself.

We asked this friend to curate some of her favorite byL pieces and choose what she wouldn’t mind to receive for Mother’s Day 2013!

“The perfect light weight bralet. This is the piece I wear when I want to relax without feeling sloppy.”

“Don’t blink! This tunic will transition from morning coffee to poolside to margaritas before you can say ‘no salt.’”

“This green is everything.”

“Sure, they’re PJs. But they look amazing with an untucked blouse and heels.”

“Fire pit on the beach, anyone?”

“I wear this T every day. Soft. Flattering. It’s the t-shirt every woman needs in her closet.”

“Beautiful under things make you feel beautiful. It’s a fact.”

byL does SWIM!!

20 Mar
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The Perfect Suit!

When I was pregnant, my mom and I went swimsuit shopping. I was about 5 months and at that in between phase where fat/bloated meets pregnant. It was a scary disaster. My mom kept choosing mumsy mumus while I pulled out string bikinis (like only I would!). The whole ordeal ended, reminiscent of my teenage years, with my mom walking out of the store and I bought what I wanted! I refused to look like a mom, just because I was a with child.   And you know what? A few days later, I felt amazingly confident sipping my mocktail on  South Beach looking (perhaps a little chubbier) but fabulous because I felt like myself!

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Bathing Beauties… at the Jersey Shore Summer 2012.

Fast forward a year later when littleM was about 9 months when I wrote a little blog post that declared my refusal to be a mom who wears a Land’s End tankini. Again, not my style! At that point, I wasn’t quite ready for the itty bitty bikini. But I was prepared for something that showed off my new mommie curves and the Zinke Weekender was just the suit! All summer (and beyond), I rocked that gorgeous one piece and felt great. Even better? I could chase after my toddler without fear of anything moving out of place.

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Taking a hydration break in Jamaica!

So, completely in honor of my love of vacation, beach, sun, and this suit in particular, byL is now selling SWIM!! The Weekender is our first suit but we will be getting another 2 piece in from Zinke in May, as well as a few fun, one of a kind options from young, CFDA extraordinaire designer Ari Dein in the next week. We also love to wear our lingerie out of the bedroom and encourage rocking that romper to the pool!

Take that romper out of the bedroom…

I’d love to hear from you about swim, so please send me your questions about swimwear and cover-ups to askMollie@byLangley.com. I’m as passionate and realistic about swim as I am about lingerie, lounge, or love and totally want to hear what you think/want! XOXO!

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